Truth or dare

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
From Joshunda's interview with Pearl Cleage: A dual history of bias and internalized oppression has kept most black women from publishing their memoirs or journals, Cleage adds, for fear of emotional and economic reprisals. "After slavery ended, black women continued to put forward the idea that we were good, sexually responsible women, going up against the racist stereotypes that came out of the madness of slavery," Cleage says. "But there was still the fear of being too honest around white people. I don't feel that's a legitimate feeling for me. I'm going to tell the truth to whoever is in the room." When I read truth, I feel courageous and emboldened. Powerful. Magical. Writing the truth, however, is altogether different. But when I do, that's when folks nod. Say, I felt…
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Midway check-in

30 Day Blog Challenge, 30 in 30 April
Blue skies swirl to pink lights. Fade to gray. It's dusk. I missed the blood moon eclipse last night, but I'm enjoying the sunset tonight. I've been sweeping away cobwebs, opening taps, stretching writing muscles. This is blog entry #15 in 15 days, and as usual, I'm glad I opted for the challenge. Also as usual, there are pros and cons to posting every day. But the benefits outweigh the drawbacks and I'm glad to get back into a writing rhythm. I've tried different approaches, but none seem to work as well as writing everyday. Writing everyday doesn't mean publishing my writing everyday, and that's the balance I'll work on once we enter May. For now, I shall continue with my daily entries. To strive even higher, to do even…
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April Fool Freewrite

30 Day Blog Challenge, 30 in 30 April
There's been a lot on my mind in recent weeks. Days. Hours. Even just now as I started to write this entry, I decided against any number of topics and decided to simply say hello. Hello! I'm being indecisive, but I'm almost sure this is my first entry in another #30in30. Once in a while I challenge myself to blog every day for a month. Here are the entries from my previous forays. Generally I decide on a whim and just go for it. I've felt a little stuck with my writing lately. No shortage of ideas, but time is at a premium as of late. Maybe this will help me work around and through a few things. Here's to the ride. You coming along?  
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Top posts for September

30 Day Blog Challenge
Here are the top posts from last month's 30in30 challenge: September is my mom's birth month. She was on my mind, and subsequently, on my blog. Early in the month, I wrote about the Barnes and Noble she never had the chance to enjoy. Later, on her birthday, I shared a co-worker's wisdom about mothers and grief. In short, losing a mother can leave you broken-hearted, even a decade later. I talked about vulnerability and learning to be "intentionally transparent" with the one you love. Easy to want, but often hard to do. It boils down to being honest with yourself first. That level of honesty and clarity about myself and my needs is at the root of an emotional wellness strategy I learned in September. Emotional wellness is important, but wellness extends…
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Last, but not least

30 Day Blog Challenge
I debated yesterday and today about what kind of entry I would write for my last 30in30 this month. I wondered if it would be a roundup of the top posts of the month. I considered featuring my favorite posts. I pondered whether or not to share my my girlfriend's story about lupus (spoiler alert: coming soon). Today during dinner, there were unexpected fireworks. I thought about posting that story, including the fact that several patrons ran out onto the balcony just to witness the display.  We all clapped at the finale. But the truth is, I'm sleepy. It's past my bedtime and I'm just happy I made it through another challenge. As always, I learned a lot about myself and my life during the past 30 days. I'm in…
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Autumnal equinox

30 Day Blog Challenge, Temple Building
Today marks the first day of fall. To be honest, it's felt like fall for most of the summer here in Georgia. I'm not looking forward to winter, which I'm betting will not be one of our characteristically mild affairs.  But winter is a full season away, and autumn is upon us now. So what, if anything, will you do differently? I rather like the beginnings of things. It's a great opportunity to make a new determination, refresh an old one, or purge ideas or habits that no longer serve. Even though this is typically associated with spring, any time is a great time to begin anew. New Year's Eve. Anniversaries.  Mondays. Mornings.  Anyone who has ever made a resolution discovers that the strength of that determination fades in time.…
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Six years ago

30 Day Blog Challenge
Once upon a time, I drafted some ideas for a story. I wrote a few pieces as the characters began introducing themselves to me. I've never edited nor even really revisited those pieces in all these years. I simply wrote them and went on with life - which was graduate school at the time. That's my disclaimer. This is one 'em. *shivers* ========================= Laysha stands on the damp grass, watching, waiting, eyes trained on Casey. Though the fans gathered are talking and laughing, she hears nothing. She barely feels Yogi's chin against her shoulder. Yogi's voice, miles away, registers "Four hundred. Your girl's up." 'Laysha nods, distractedly. "Umm-hmm" she breathes. She thinks to herself, This should be good. See what she's really made of. Hmmm. They put her in the…
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Getting back to great

30 Day Blog Challenge, Temple Building
Just completed a 4.02 mi run - One time for another great run. YEEEEAAAAHHHHH. #running #templebuilding http://t.co/qt4yzGiK7R #RunKeeper — nicole means victory (@ndcollier) September 18, 2013 Some runs are just good runs. This morning's run definitely goes in the books as a good one.  Why? I found a new route that works well. Because I'm in a new area, I'm mapping and remapping routes as I run. This morning I found a couple of good stretches without too many turns to memorize. Moreover, today's route  didn't take me over too many ginormous hills nor past too many dilapidated houses. I ran 4 miles. Again. Although I used to run 4 miles 3-4 times a week, it was all on relatively flat land. I'm building the stamina to run 4 miles…
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Halfway…

30 Day Blog Challenge
Today marks the halfway point of my 30 in 30 challenge for September. More importantly, it marks the completion point for one trip around the sun with my love, Blue. One year ago today… @ndcollier #love #cocoblue — Phillip Harp (@PFunkZillaZilla) September 15, 2013 Yeah, we're those people. Holding hands in the grocery store. Sending cards just because. And why not? Time flies. You're the pilot. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=STC3I6SwLp4&w=560&h=315]
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…but how do you want to feel?

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative, Productivity, Temple Building, Women's Health
I'm home, after a day of inspiration. And like I've been for the past few months, I'm tired. I'm not bone tired or weary, but I've just noticed that I'm not as energized as I used to be. There are many very specific reasons for that, but they all boil down to one: change. [caption id="attachment_639" align="alignright" width="258"] One day after work, I did handstands and cartwheels in this grass.[/caption] Over the past several months, I've changed a lot and so has my environment. From my zip code to my job responsibilities, to aspects of romantic and platonic relationships. Personal goals and professional goals have shifted. Exercise habits have changed. Food. The amount of time I spend in the sun or the ways I engage nature. The amount and type…
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