Muscle memory

Zaimu Challenge
If you don't use it, you lose it. People say this often about second language learning, and really, most everything except riding a bicycle. It's true, too, about blogging. For years I had a regular blogging practice, changing format, tone and location whenever I was ready for a change. In the past couple of years, my blogging has gotten more sporadic after dramatic shifts in my daily routines. Sometimes I miss it, but I'm not quite sure what to say. So I think about blogging, but leave the page blank. Beginning April 28, I started a blogging challenge. My goal is to blog something every day through early June. The early going has proven as challenging as I expected it might be. I do expect as time goes on, I'll write…
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Top posts for September

30 Day Blog Challenge
Here are the top posts from last month's 30in30 challenge: September is my mom's birth month. She was on my mind, and subsequently, on my blog. Early in the month, I wrote about the Barnes and Noble she never had the chance to enjoy. Later, on her birthday, I shared a co-worker's wisdom about mothers and grief. In short, losing a mother can leave you broken-hearted, even a decade later. I talked about vulnerability and learning to be "intentionally transparent" with the one you love. Easy to want, but often hard to do. It boils down to being honest with yourself first. That level of honesty and clarity about myself and my needs is at the root of an emotional wellness strategy I learned in September. Emotional wellness is important, but wellness extends…
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Love, violence and transformations: A recap.

30 Day Blog Challenge
March was a great month of endings, beginnings, and transformations in general. I updated this space every day while in the midst of a whirlwind. The high energy and nonstop pace is in full swing for another couple of days, but I wanted to take a breath to share the top posts from last month. So I just moved. And I don't know about you, but for me moving is a special process full of resistance, excitement, and everything in between. I was slow to get started, but eventually, I did start packing. I've only spent one night in my new place, so no, I'm not settled yet. I'm always fascinated by narratives and the power of story, and maybe some of you are too? This blog about knowing your family's narrative,…
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Arrived.

Personal Narrative
I have arrived. Yesterday was a long day of last-minute packing, goodbye lunching and driving. We made it in the wee hours of the morning. The movers unloaded my goods this afternoon. I sent the men away with a few items as I began purging more remnants of lives past. I grew up in this house, but I haven't inhabited it in six years. I've not been here, but my stuff sure has been. Old closets filled with old stuff. I won't feel at home in my old house, until I do some serious clearing. And so it begins.
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Good vibrations.

Personal Narrative
I've reached that point in the packing process where the acoustics in my apartment have started to change. And really, the energy has been shifting all along in concert with my mood. Anticipation. Excitement. Stress. Sadness. Joy. It's making the packing go slowly. Which is fine. Packing, moving, like anything else in life, is a process. And on it goes. 2 days. #countdown
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Dawn and endings.

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
[caption id="attachment_1800" align="aligncenter" width="538"] Dawn at Starbucks Bay.[/caption] It's my favorite time of day - the dark before the dawn. First light alerts the world to the coming sunrise. This morning my cat is snuggled next to me as I write in my darkened bedroom. I have long favored early morning because it's nearly silent, mostly still. Hints of noises and shadows of movements as many of nature's beings prepare for the day ahead. Daniel once tweeted his praise for early mornings: the world is quiet, Spirit is loud. Yes. It's a time of hope and possibilities. Beginnings. Today is also an ending of sorts. Today marks my 30th post in as many days. I've completed my personal challenge. The last time I wrote 30 posts in 30 days I found…
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Where to?

30 Day Blog Challenge
So I'm moving, that much is clear, but it seems the where to is a great deal muddier. The short answer is, back home. It's second nature to call Atlanta home, since that's where I was born and raised, but honestly, I feel funny about it. In the technical sense, it is or was home, but as I wrote in November: What is home, exactly? A place or a moment that resonates. It’s gathering of old friends around a good game of Taboo. A visit to the tried and true corner barbershop one Saturday morning.  Sometimes home is less fleeting. It’s a city where sunshine runs rampant. A house you’ve built with your partner. Whenever, wherever your heart feels welcomed and your spirit feels at ease, is home. Moments and people in Atlanta…
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A quick word on clarifying and silence.

30 Day Blog Challenge
I don't give advice. I won't go so far as to say I've never given suggestions or answered specific questions  (should I wear this dress or that one?), but life questions and, "here's what you should do" stuff? No. I've always been of the impression that I can't tell you how to live your life, I can only offer you my perspective on how I might handle a similar situation. But it's what I might do, not what you should do. And since it's not about me - it's about you, I turn the spotlight in the other direction and offer up a mirror besides. My goal is to help you clarify your positioning to the topic/question/dilemma at hand, as well as your options and potential consequences. Clarifying, I can…
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Looking forward.

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
A funny thing happened on the way to work. No, not really. But I needed a way to start today's blog post, and, why not? Nothing to make you chuckle, but I did find today worthy of note... As I drove through the more rural areas of Tampa Bay, I was greeted by canopy trees! If you've never spent time in Tallahassee, Florida, you may not be familiar with the canopy roads. These are long streets lined on either side by huge oaks dripping with Spanish moss. They hang over the roads like umbrellas, providing shade for the passing motorists. Canopies! And although the sight in Tampa Bay did not approach that glory, it was lovely to see the familiar splendor. It reminded me of Tallahassee, yes, but also of St.…
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A word on packing.

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
So I'm moving. According to my countdown app, in 10 days and 18 hours, the moving guys from Blitz will be loading up the truck.  Once people find out you're moving, and D-day is close at hand, they start asking questions. Really, it's just one question, but it comes in a few different flavors: Have you started packing already? How's the packing coming along? Do you have a lot left to pack? In order, the answers are: No. It isn't. Yes, everything. It's part of my process. As one who has moved several times in recent years with basically the same stuff, I know I can pack in 2 days flat. One and a half if I'm really not feeling it. All of this includes a great deal of focus…
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