Spring cleaning.

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
I've decided to travel home lighter than I left. There is at least one table, and possibly two that won't make it across my "new" threshold. All the books (of course) are going, but all the clothes are not.  And that's where things have gotten interesting. I've had the pull to purge my closet since January. Time, location and will have kept me from it. That is, until today. The suits were the first to go. I bought several suits for a job I began over 6 years ago. My favorite two will make the trip, but the others, including three I've never worn, are being donated to Dress for Success. Although I don't desire those and many other items in my closet, forming the donate pile with those first…
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A quick word on clarifying and silence.

30 Day Blog Challenge
I don't give advice. I won't go so far as to say I've never given suggestions or answered specific questions  (should I wear this dress or that one?), but life questions and, "here's what you should do" stuff? No. I've always been of the impression that I can't tell you how to live your life, I can only offer you my perspective on how I might handle a similar situation. But it's what I might do, not what you should do. And since it's not about me - it's about you, I turn the spotlight in the other direction and offer up a mirror besides. My goal is to help you clarify your positioning to the topic/question/dilemma at hand, as well as your options and potential consequences. Clarifying, I can…
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More on moving.

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
So the corollary to "have you started packing yet?" is, "are you excited yet?" It's the same answer: No. I was excited when I debated the move, weighed the pros and cons. I considered the risks of moving versus the risks of staying. Did I want to chase dreams and new possibilities, or did I want to remain comfortable? I was excited when I put in my intent to vacate. It was official. The chase was on! But as we approach the actual day, my excitement has waned significantly. There's a good reason for that. I don't know if you know this, but moving simply isn't that much fun. Especially moving across state lines. There's stuff to do. Mail to forward. Utilities to turn on. Boxes to tape and label.…
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A word on packing.

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
So I'm moving. According to my countdown app, in 10 days and 18 hours, the moving guys from Blitz will be loading up the truck.  Once people find out you're moving, and D-day is close at hand, they start asking questions. Really, it's just one question, but it comes in a few different flavors: Have you started packing already? How's the packing coming along? Do you have a lot left to pack? In order, the answers are: No. It isn't. Yes, everything. It's part of my process. As one who has moved several times in recent years with basically the same stuff, I know I can pack in 2 days flat. One and a half if I'm really not feeling it. All of this includes a great deal of focus…
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Be true.

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
Do you have a favorite quote that you return to again and again? What is it, and why does it move you? If you summon your courage to challenge something, you’ll never regret it. How sad it would be to spend your life wishing, “If only I had a little more courage.” Whatever the outcome, the important thing is to take a step forward on the path that you believe is right. There’s no need to worry about what others may think. It’s your life, after all. Be true to yourself. ~Daisaku Ikeda I first saw this quote in the November 2012 issue of Living Buddhism magazine. Sae Chonabayashi said it encouraged her to pursue her dreams. It encouraged me to do the same. At the time I read the piece, I was at a crossroads;…
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What do you want? #rapeculture #vaw

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative, Sexual Violence
People who have witnessed the recent steps on my journey have sent me good wishes and hopes for the outcome I want. Truth be told, the healing, the outcome I wanted for myself, happened long ago. But I've started to talk publicly about it. And I recently told my ex my thoughts about our past. This has inspired the following question from many corners: What do you want? I want to agitate. I want to make people feel uncomfortable. I want to counter rape culture. I want people to stop blaming victims. I want to add my voice to the chorus of survivors. I want partners to question their entitlement over another's body. I want people to talk. Especially men to their friends and brothers. To their sons and lovers. Rape…
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Sun goddess.

30 Day Blog Challenge
9 p.m.  contemplative. quiet. slumber soon come and then morning. glorious gift. first light - stirring. stretching. deep sighs. promises made in silent darkness. black skies give way to lavender wisps. daybreak - salutations. skies warm and brighten, heralding crimson dawn. ---- I took this photo just after 7 a.m. I had planned to write a short missive on morning, my favorite time of day. Well, the day came and went before I had the chance to write. Here it is, nearly 10 p.m., and I'm looking forward to morning again.  xoxo
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Midpoint check in! #NaBloPoMo #amwriting

30 Day Blog Challenge
[caption id="attachment_1499" align="alignleft" width="225"] Jorge and me getting our salsa on![/caption] Cue the salsa music! Let's dance! I've made it to the halfway point. I committed to writing 30 blogs in 30 days, and so far so good. I'm amazed and inspired this time around. I've wondered why it feels so much easier than August. I think it's because: There's no angst. It's something I've accomplished before, so I began with the foreknowledge I can definitely be successful. Whether stream of consciousness, quick check-ins, or other short entries, I can blog every day. I'm wiser. I discovered a lot about my writing process, so I realize my morning brilliance may or may not be written (much less published) by afternoon. Sometimes thoughts need time to germinate. Related to that... I'm more…
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On ironing and grief. #NaBloPoMo #amwriting.

30 Day Blog Challenge, Personal Narrative
I remember when I stopped ironing. As a young girl, I ironed all the time. And to some degree, ironing suited me. I'd iron shirt after shirt, and soon enough I'd be in a mindless rhythm. My thoughts were free to imagine new scenes for my current short story, or remember favorite scenes from a Judy Blume in progress. Usually I'd iron in the den on weekends. Daddy stretched out in his easy chair watching sports of some sort, momma half-watching, half-devouring a novel. It was easy, ironing was. As I grew older, I continued ironing as needed. Didn't think much of it. Maybe I no longer ironed clothes on weekends. Maybe I simply ironed the night before, as I laid out clothes for school. In college, ironing happened decidedly…
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On looking and leaping. #NaBloPoMo #amwriting.

30 Day Blog Challenge
Do you always look before you leap? Of course. Gravity is real and objects are solid. Not looking where you leap can lead to injury. Or worse. That said, looking first doesn't negate the leaping. It simply means assessing the situation beforehand. I weigh pros and cons. I mull things over and consider multiple angles. I do a gut check: How does it feel when I think about leaping? I can't say if I put more stock in feelings over facts. It depends on the leap in question. I don't do all of this to talk myself out of leaping, but rather so I can leap mindfully. I think a related question is Have you ever taken a leap you've regretted? The answer to that is a solid no. Regret…
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